I think this starts with us abandoning the idea that there’s one way for any human to be. I am who I am, and my kids are who they are. You are, I hope, who you are, and your children will be who they’re going to be. This doesn’t mean gender doesn’t matter, but it does mean the things we do, the things we like and the ways we choose to spend our time shouldn’t conform to some precise recipe for masculinity or femininity.